The Fun and Fear of Moving

Me: Moving is Exciting!

I was born in Florida and raised in North Carolina. I’ve toured the country (and parts of the world) for work and pleasure. With three months to prepare I’ve packed up, held the mother of all yard sales, and driven over 5,000 miles to Alaska – with a girlfriend, a dog, a cat, and 4 or 5 boxes in the back of the Sidekick.

And with even less prep time I’ve done it all again, this time selling a house in a down market, holding an even bigger yard sale (it’s amazing what you can collect in seven years), and figuring out how to puzzle together what was left in the back of my Prius – leaving room for my best friend and his supply of energy drinks.

1 melt down and 3 hours later… ready to roll.

My Prius, by the way, was named Petra on our trip to the Lower 48… but that’s another story.

She: Moving is Scary!

She was born in Brooklyn, New York and raised in Long Island. She has lived in four of the five boroughs and has worked and practiced law in Manhattan since the mid 80’s. She has travelled the world for work, volunteerism, and pleasure – but she has never moved. She is a New Yorker. She has lived in New Jersey, because that’s what many New Yorkers do, but she is a New Yorker through and through.

Passing Time in NYC

I say this twice because (for her) our moving to Cleveland is more than just moving. It is the first time she has moved. And she is also leaving THE CITY of all cities. Last night it all became clear as we we’re leaving her Manhattan office for dinner.

Me: What do you want to do for dinner tonight?
She: Do you think we’ll be sorry we moved to Cleveland?

Our resulting conversation began by comparing how many restaurants there are in New York and how few there are in Cleveland. She is worried we might grow bored with only 20 or 30 choices (her words, not mine). Then we talked about all the wonderful recommendations made by Clevelanders in response to a recent article I wrote.

What really sealed the deal was reminding her of the five-minute walk from our new digs to the brand-new Horseshoe Casino where she can play poker when she’s not in New York on business.

Then I grinned at her and repeated my original question.

Me: What do you want to do for dinner tonight?  
She: Sushi? From the place around the corner?
Me: Again? Do you want to try something new? Maybe one of the thousands of restaurants that makes NYC so hard to leave?

The laughter that followed can only be described as cathartic – because she had to admit that despite the thousands of restaurant in New York, she is a creature of habit who loves to eat the same thing again and again.

Her fear of moving is not about fewer choices – it’s about new choices. It’s about leaving a place she has known and loved all her life for a place with only the ‘potential’ for being loved. Moving is outside her comfort zone.

Thinking back on last night I am reminded of my favorite quote:

“Far better is to dare mighty deeds, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor souls who neither enjoy much, nor suffer much, for they live in the grey twilight that knows not victory, nor defeat.”

~ Theodore Roosevelt

For me, this move is another adventure in the journey I call life – not a mighty deed. For she, it is a mighty deed indeed – and I am thankful she does not “take rank with those who neither enjoy much, nor suffer much” for we are moving to Cleveland.

She: Moving is Scary!
Me: Moving is Exciting!

You: Is moving fun or something you fear – and why?


12 thoughts on “The Fun and Fear of Moving

  1. I think you will be VERY pleasantly surprised at the # of fabulous dining choices in Cleveland! If you ever find yourself in need of a restaurant suggestion, just let me know. Lots of ethnic, local, fine dining and even ice cream!

  2. If it helps at all, I was raised in New Jersey, specifically on the coast in a little town called Manasquan. I then moved up north to Jersey City as I was working in downtown Manhattan on the NYMEX.
    One day, having worked on the exchange for more than 3 years, I decided enough was enough and made the decision to move to Ohio where all of my family was from and where my parents had recently bought a house to be close to their parents.
    For me the move was easy. I figured it was due, in part, to the proximity of my family and the fact that I had a lot of experience with Ohio and Cleveland growing up.
    What I didn’t expect though, after having called myself a resident of New Jersey for 17 years, was how quickly I became an Ohioan, a Clevelander. It was perfect and I felt at home almost immediately, even without friends which for me took longer than most people.
    My point in all of this is that I am certain, especially now with how amazing this region is doing, that you will both fit right in and not even remember what you were worried about.

    Welcome to paradise.


  3. Bwahaha!! I thought the first conversation was a crack-up; the second was even better. Keep living and loving the questions just as much as the answers. In other words, enjoy your planning and questioning and researching and transitioning – all of it. Right now. Because these days are just as important as the days you’ll spend in Cleveland. What a treat to follow you on your journey.

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  5. Did she end up liking it there? In Ohio I mean. I am moving to Ohio in a couple of months and I am both excited and scared. I have never been there. I do not have anyone to go with me either. What is it like?

    • She did – and I am. It’s been a wonderful move and I think you will quite like Cleveland when you get here. You are moving to Cleveland? Or somewhere else in Ohio?

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